The last time I went to a bar, I found myself looking out the window for an opening.
I didn’t know what I was looking for, but I knew it needed to be close.
I was standing in a line, and a guy behind me was staring at me from the window.
It wasn’t because I was trying to find an opening—it was because he was looking at me.
It was at a bar in New York, and I was having a great time.
My friend and I were drinking our beers, and the barman had just come back from his shift.
He took a sip from his beer, and said, “I’ve been here three times.
You look so tired.”
It was the first time I’d ever heard a bartender say this to me.
But, to my surprise, I actually felt like I was tired.
My first thought was, I could barely get this beer to my mouth.
A few weeks later, I’d go back to a different bar and a different bartender, and this time the guy was talking about his experiences.
He mentioned how he’d seen people take a break from their work to take a nap.
I thought, this sounds really fun.
“If I can do it, anyone can,” he told me.
And then I thought to myself, If I can’t do it…
I’ve had a lot of people tell me they can’t get enough of me.
The thought of having a buddy with me makes me feel like a true human.
I’ve done a lot to try to make it happen.
I have to admit, I’m still a little wary of bar hopping.
I’m a bit nervous because I’ve heard so many people say they want to hang out with a buddy but don’t have one.
But there are so many awesome people out there that I want to connect with, and when I think about a friend in the bar, or even just a friendly face in a crowded bar, it makes me want to go.
I can tell you that it has made me feel more comfortable and less lonely.
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